Joy and Pain in Tandem
I was part of an extended family who lived together in the ghetto, in men’s and women’s staff homes. We ate together, worshipped together, and ministered together. When one of us, or of those to whom we ministered, was hurting, we all hurt. When we learned of incest, of some of our young teens selling their bodies, of the death of some we loved, we shared the pain.
- In case you don’t recognize me, I’m the one sitting on the floor, top right photo; and the blonde on the right, lower left photo.
When gang members threw bricks through the women’s staff windows and we received threats of death or mutilation, our staff guys came and sat with us ’til two or three in the morning, until we were calm enough to sleep for a few hours.
When our teen girls taught us white Mennonite girls (who didn’t dance) their moves, I was the proud winner of the dance contest. Yes, there were only three of us in competition, but still …
When a few of us drove down the street and saw a woman in a phone booth, bleeding, we stopped to help.
We laughed and shared retreats, Bible studies, and music together, within our staff and with our teen choir. We prayed and saw God answer prayers for us, and for community members. We led Bible studies, teen and children’s clubs, distributed food and clothing as we became aware of specific needs.
Many teens, and some adults, committed their lives to Christ during the ten years I served there. And while it was a time that eventually resulted in burnout, fatigue, a decimated immune system, and some long-lasting painful effects, there is still so much for which I am thankful.
I’m thankful for …
- The God whose heart is for reconciliation, so much so that He sent His Son, Jesus, to be sacrificed to provide the way of reconciliation between God and mankind … for me, for the world.
- Co-workers who ministered together amid fear, joy, and the reward of seeing children, teens and adults reconciled to God through Christ.
- These dear friends who challenged me, and each other, to look to Jesus, the author and finisher of our faith.
- Those who came to faith in Jesus Christ, who now have established Christian homes and are living out their faith in their communities.
- The opportunity to serve, to rely on God in unfamiliar situations, to watch Him work through my weakness.
- Deep friendships that were broken for a time, but have been renewed, reconciled, and are meaningful and rich with love.
- Family and friends who prayed for and supported us in the ministry and its challenges (and after!), and for the wise, godly counselor who helped me heal after leaving this ministry.
So, sometimes joy and pain co-exist. The loss of a dear spouse, when there is joy for the years spent together and that suffering is over, alongside the agony of loss.
The pain of illness along with the joy of growing nearer to Christ.
The loss of a friendship along with thankfulness for God’s presence within the pain. And sometimes, the reconciliation of those friendships.
Can you think of a time when you felt both pain and joy in a situation? When you experienced reconciliation? How did that encourage your heart?
“All this is from God, who reconciled us to himself through Christ and gave us the ministry of reconciliation: that God was reconciling the world to himself in Christ, not counting people’s sins against them. And he has committed to us the message of reconciliation. We are therefore Christ’s ambassadors, as though God were making his appeal through us. We implore you on Christ’s behalf: Be reconciled to God. God made him who had no sin to be sin for us, so that in him we might become the righteousness of God.”
“But He said to me, ‘My grace is sufficient for you, for power is perfected in weakness.’ Therefore, I will most gladly boast all the more about my weaknesses, so that Christ’s power may reside in me. So I take pleasure in weaknesses, insults, catastrophes, persecutions, and in pressures, because of Christ. For when I am weak, then I am strong.”II Corinthians 5:18-21; II Corinthians 12:9-10