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Life is Like the Waves of the Sea

Life is Like the Waves of the Sea

Sometimes the waves crescendo to a peak with a great up, then crash one on top of another, pounding the sand of my being and overwhelming me. At other times, there are longer stretches of calm, of rest. Since I was a teenager, I’ve felt a unique bond with the sea. Not because I fish or sail, but because so often I felt it expressed my own heart. If my spirit was quiet, the waters seemed calm, tranquil. If I felt anxious, the waves seemed to reflect my fears.

Crashing Waves_Photo by Ray Bilcliff_pexels

Do you feel that too?

Recently we’ve had some great ups…

  • Our monthly sibling zoom, which keeps my brothers, sisters-in-law and Don and me connected on a regular basis.
  • We enjoyed dinner out with a dear friend whose wife was out of town.
  • I yelled for joy after reading an email from one of my best college buddies. Widowed because of Covid several years ago, she is getting remarried to a wonderful, godly man this summer.
  • A good friend and I took a Villages-sponsored trip to see “Fashioning San Francisco: A Century of Style,” at the DeYoung Museum. Bonnie and I talked nonstop all the way there and back, and enjoyed seeing fashions from various pillars of the fashion industry, including Christian Dior, Alexander McQueen, and Chanel. The colors were vibrant, the fabrics fabulous. This Kelly green gown was one of my favorites. Look at the sheen of the fabric cut on the bias, the stunning gold embroidery, the removable puffed sleeves.

And downs…

  • We had a death in the family. Loss is painful, especially as we watch Don’s sister, daughter and son grieve the loss of the husband to whom she was married for over seventy years! I saw beauty as she sat beside his hospital bed while he was comatose, holding his hand and looking into his beloved face.
  • The back legs of our sweet Paigey, a Cavalier, are weakening and not holding her up as they should. Her legs often splayed beneath her. She is aging, and we hate to see her hurting. But, after several vet visits and new medications, she is gaining traction and, once again, barks at Don when he’s preparing her breakfast. “Is it ready yet Dad? Why not?”
  • I was trying to finish several key submissions relative to our friend’s estate, and needed both my laptop and printer. I took my computer in for repairs for the second time, after which our brand-new printer began acting up. My frustration level was high, as was my blood pressure! I spent hours trying to work on both pieces of equipment before calling in the experts. But the submissions got completed and mailed.
  • I learned a friend from years ago had passed away of cancer.

How do we Respond to the Waves of Life?

Seemed like all week I was either saying “Lord, please help–again!” or “Praise your holy name!” In my friend’s engagement I saw the faithfulness of God in providing a new love relationship, as He did for Don and me. I actually walked around Safeway that morning with a silly grin on my face. I kept passing one woman in different aisles. Finally, I commented, “We seem to be passing regularly,” and wished her God’s blessings. She responded in kind and began to walk away.

I spoke up. “Can I tell you something wonderful?”

“Of course.”

I told her of my friend and God’s faithfulness in her life, through difficult times and joyful ones. This woman I’d never met responded with “Oh, I thank God every day for his faithfulness.” We gave each other a big hug and went our separate ways, having shared the goodness of God.

And at my old friend’s memorial, a 50-60 member community choir she was part of for years sang at her memorial. What a joy to hear a good, full choir perform again in honor of one of their own!

Wisdom for Life

I thought how much was packed into these two weeks, both good and bad. The book of wisdom says this:

Trust in the Lord with all your heart,
and do not lean on your own understanding.
 In all your ways acknowledge him,
and he will make straight your paths. Proverbs 3:5-6

As I have worked to settle our friend’s estate over the past six months, I have often called on God for help and wisdom, to know the right questions to ask, the people to contact. And He has guided me. This week I felt a heavy burden lift from my shoulders, knowing that, while there are still issues to complete, I can see an end in sight.

Waves will Continue to Rise and Fall

Life comes with challenges in different forms. Joy, gratitude, contentment, along with illness, mechanical problems, loss, grief, pressure, deadlines…but in all this we have a Savior who has promised to be with us, a Holy Spirit to guide and comfort us and sometimes just hold us close.

When the Spirit of truth comes, he will guide you into all the truth, for he will not speak on his own authority, but whatever he hears he will speak, and he will declare to you the things that are to come. John 16:13 ESV

Listen to the hope expressed in these truths:

The Spirit helps us pray, and prays for us.

Likewise the Spirit helps us in our weakness. For we do not know what to pray for as we ought, but the Spirit himself intercedes for us with groanings too deep for words. Romans 8:26a ESV

He is our advocate.

…the Spirit intercedes for the saints according to the will of God. Romans 8:27b

And He will teach us as we learn to listen to him.

But the Helper, the Holy Spirit, whom the Father will send in my name, he will teach you all things and bring to your remembrance all that I have said to you. John 14:26 ESV

Trusting in Christ as we Experience the Waves of Life

In C.S. Lewis’ THE GREAT DIVORCE (, he tells a story of people who live in hell but have a chance to visit heaven.

The bus picks them up one by one, from dark homes that are far from each other. No one wants to be a friend to anyone else. The drive is silent as they all ignore each other. They arrive in heaven, step off the bus and find their feet feeling stabbed by the pure, clear green grass of heaven. They soon reboard the bus to return to their lonely existences, separated from God and from each other. They weren’t fit for heaven, because they had not trusted in the One who would make them delight in the glories of his home. The book is a great read.

But when we trust in Christ, we have someone who walks beside us and is in us. Through all the ups and downs of life, he guides, comforts, teaches, and advocates for us…and much more.

Do you trust him, even if you don’t understand everything about him? I’d love to talk about it.


  1. Sue Swain says:

    Thanks Carol🥰
    Very timely for all of us.
    Dakoda’s hind legs are doing the same thing as your little Paigey. With tears and a thankful heart I frequently bring him before the Lord as I greet Dakoda morning and at bedtime with, “ I love you so much”. And, “Lord, thank you for allowing me to love and be loved by this little guy one more day.”
    Love you

    1. Carol Loewen says:

      Oh Sue, I’m so sorry. I know how my heart hurts when I see Paigey struggle; and I know your heart for Dakoda. We are blessed to have them in our lives every day God gives us! Love you right back!

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