Resentment: Reverse Poison
Lying in bed a few years ago, I thought of the people who would travel with us on a much-anticipated trip the following day. One woman had offended me on a prior trip. I thought I’d forgiven her. However, as I prayed I realized I still felt a tinge of antagonism toward her.
“I don’t want that Lord,” I confessed. “Will you please remove the bitterness from my heart.”

When I saw this woman the next morning, I flinched. I had a choice to make, since she hadn’t yet seen us. By God’s grace I chose to greet her with a smile. And she, against whom I had carried a kernel of dislike, responded with warm words of affirmation. We enjoyed talking and kidding around during the remainder of the trip. It felt good to have the resentment gone, that poison flushed out of my system.
When I ask the Father for help He is so very willing to respond, to make me more like Himself.
“For it is God who is at work within you, giving you the will and the power to achieve his purpose.”
Philippians 2:12-b13
Someone once said holding onto resentment is like drinking poison and expecting the other guy to die. Wise words, especially with all the divisiveness in our nation today. And holding onto resentment makes us bitter, dissatisfied, unhappy. Not the way I want to live.
“Let all bitterness and indignation and wrath (passion, rage, bad temper) and resentment (anger, animosity) and quarreling (brawling, clamor, contention) and slander (evil-speaking, abusive or blasphemous language) be banished from you, with all malice (spite, ill will, or baseness of any kind).”
Ephesians 4:31
Are you holding onto resentment or bitterness? Can you hand those to the God who wants us to be whole, righteous, just, at peace? Why not allow God to do His refining work in you, realizing His purposes are above yours and mine?
Blessings, dear readers.
Wise words, Carol. I had an opportunity last week to take care of myself by speaking my truth to someone who was expressing control over me. I knew in the moment I could hold my tongue but carry resentment in my heart OR I could express in a kind way my thought about her expressed control and let go of the resentment. I chose the latter and it worked. She backed off and we moved on.
Good for you Karen. You are a good example of speaking the truth in love, of speaking it rather than allowing it to build resentment inside you. Thank you!