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I had no trouble keeping awake. Between managing a business issue on my hands-free phone, having a long, lovely chat with Mom, and singing along with our choir’s Christmas CD, my “windshield time” (driving) flew by.

Arriving at the beach destination for our college buds reunion, four beautiful women who have meant a great deal to me in and since my college years at Fresno Pacific University greeted me.

The week before our girlfriends’ getaway, emails flew back and forth …morro rock

“Anyone bringing a swimsuit?”

“No way.”

“Hopefully we’ve become more accepting of ourselves than back when …”

“Can’t we be accepting and still clothed?”

We knew laughter would be on the agenda!


Jeannies wedding

Unpacking, storing the food we’d brought (enough for a small army, or at least for a week’s stay rather than three days!), we delighted in being together again. Four of us were bridesmaids in MarJean’s wedding to Conrad 46 years ago (left). While most of us have seen each other periodically over the intervening passage of time, we have not seen MarJean for about 43 years.  If you have reconnected with long-time friends, you will understand when I say we picked up where we left off, sharing laughter, tears, memories, and love. That night, over halibut and sweet potato fries, we remembered our college days:


  • The relationships that lasted, or didn’t;
  • Professors and dorm parents who challenged us, or didn’t;
  • Crazy things we did like falling asleep in the Fresno sun with baby oil as our tanning lotion, only to waken with second degree leg burns (that one was mine)
  • Opportunities to express our faith in a variety of ways; and
  • Our friendships, which held through the years despite our relocations across California and Alaska.

We include a missionary, two teachers, an office manager/bookkeeper, and a human resources manager. Between us we have nine children and 38 grand and step-grandchildren.

And we’ve all experienced challenges along the way. Part of life.Five on bench in cambria

But as He promised, God has been, and continues to be, with each of us throughout the E-ticket rides that embody our lives.

Friendships are a treasure; with long-term, infrequent contact, they may be hidden treasures, to be opened with joy at times of reunion. That’s how I felt this weekend. We ate, shared long conversations together, shopped, explored. No need for games or tv. There was too much life to catch up on.

I recently read that one who wants friendships must invest in them. We five took this time to invest in each other, to renew and deepen these precious friendships.  And what a treasure we uncovered.

“A friend loves at all times; and a brother is born for a time of adversity.” (Proverbs 17:17)

Who are your treasured friends? How do you invest in those relationships?


  1. Shirl says:

    Very nice Carol! You nailed it!

  2. Karen O'Connor says:

    Carol, what a privilege it is to read your special blog about your dear friends from your college years and beyond. I love the photos. It’s been 55 years since I graduated from college but I have not kept up with any of the friends made there. I did for awhile and then life got in the way . . . sad to say, and I moved far from the heart of the place where we all met. But friendships are precious and the ones I’ve made since (you among them) continue to hold me up and sustain me during the ups and downs of life. Robert Louis Stevenson once said, “A friend is a present you give yourself.” Indeed!

    1. carolnl says:

      Thank you Karen. It’s sure fun to look back at those 46-year old photos. And I treasure your friendship too!

  3. MarJean Peters says:

    Great job writing this up, dear Carol! In fact, excellently done!! Thank you for taking the time to do this–another “treasure” in my memory collection. I’ve hardly stopped thinking of all of you since we bid our farewells once again for only God knows how long. Love and blessings to you, dear friend!!

    1. carolnl says:

      Thanks, Jeannie. I look forward to reading your recollections as well. We all collected more treasures this past weekend together. I don’t know either when we’ll see each other again, but sure want to keep in closer touch than we have been. Love you too!

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